Questions That Are Asked As If They Totally Aren't Personal

Since I have lots of mommies that read my blog that have many children, and many of you are quiver full minded (trusting God to plan your family, trusting Him with your wombs Psalm 127), I thought I would bring up a few questions that people ask as if they totally aren't personal questions to begin with.

- Are you pregnant? If you have to ask this question, then you are taking a VERY big chance that the woman you are asking is either, yes pregnant, or not. If she is not, you will be causing her a great deal of trauma by announcing that her worst fears are true: I do still look pregnant. If she is pregnant and hasn't felt the need to share the news with you as of yet, you are placing her in a position of having to lie. So, just DON'T ASK!

- Are you planning on having more? Are you done having children? Are you kidding me? Do you really think that I wish to discuss something as intimate as my sexlife with you? I mean, you aren't asking about that specifically, however, my sexlife with my husband does have a HUGE part to do with our reproduction. I understand that we are a bit of a phenomenon by having more than 2.3 children, but please refrain from asking this question. I will say that I do make sure to use this opportunity to share that we are trusting the Lord with our family planning. That we are waiting on Him in this area, and that although we struggle with obedience, we are always grateful for his blessings in the form of a child. I am a sinner and I falter. I fall and have to seek Jesus to pick me back up, so even though I find it rude for people to ask this question, I will continue to use it as a way to talk about trusting in God and how blessed we are. I would be insane to think the questions would end.

- You homeschool your children? What about socialization? I suppose this doesn't really fall under the category of 'personal questions', however, it still ticks me off. My children are with me 99% of the time, so all you have to do is watch. Do they look like they lack socialization skills? If you have met my children, you would know they are very well adjusted, kind, respectful, and caring human beings...down to the littlest one. I don't go questioning you about why you are letting your child throw a tantrum in the middle of the aisle at the store while you pretend to not see him. I don't ask you why you are allowing your child to call you ugly names in public (I shudder to think about what happens in the privacy of your own home) as you cave in and let him have the candybar you already said he couldn't have. We all struggle as parents, however, I find it so intrusive that you would feel it is your right to question me about my children's upbringing when I wouldn't dare do it to you.

- And my absolute favorite: Oh, your husband is a lawyer? How much does he make? You must be rollin' in it! Seriously, you are delusional if you really think I am going to share the balance of my checkbook with you. This would be a rude question to ask anyone, but assuming that just because my husband can add the 'esquire' to the end of his name would make us rich...HA HA HA...you need to research just how expensive it is to go to law school. Student loans can feel like a mortgage payment most months.

And as a little tribute to my sweet blogger friend, now a mama of 6 herself, over at The Williams Bunch, please, please don't say things like this to a pregnant woman:
- Are you having twins? You look ready to pop any minute!
- You sure are getting big!!
- For the women that are in their last trimester and run into people: Still pregnant, huh?

So, I will get off my soap box. And please know when I was saying you, I wasn't referring to YOU, unless you are one of the people that ask questions like these. I just had to get this off my chest because my SIL has been getting these a lot lately, too, and well, I just don't like people messing with her. So there.