Huge One I Forgot On The Personal Questions List Below

I wrote a post about personal questions that people seem to think are not and they feel free to ask. Well, I have many family members and friends whom I am praying for in regards of wanting a baby. Either, they just started trying, or one whom has been trying for over 8 years. Although, I could never understand what it is like to yearn for so long to have your womb filled, my heart is heavy for these loving couples who seek so much to have children and raise them up to be soldiers for the Lord. So, if you haven't read the original post, you can scroll down one post, or you can do so here. Then come back and read my addition to the list:

For those wives so longing for a baby. For those husbands so desiring to be a Daddy. For those couples that have the heartbreak each month when the test is negative, this is for you (These are questions that they themselves have told me they have been asked before and over and over and over....):

-How long have you been married, and still NO kids?!?! When you ask a question like this, you have no idea what the issues behind the scenes may be. What if they are medical? What if they are issues of infertility? Do you really want to put someone in a position to put you in your place...because you would totally deserve it.

-Are you pregnant yet?This is along the same lines as above, but I can assure you that when this question was asked on a VERY REGULAR basis from a very dear friend of mine, that it broke her heart each time. Although you might mean well, and are just curious, it is a reminder that she isn't the only one noticing that her belly is not being blessed with a child. Please, be considerate to all the possiblities that might keep a couple from becoming parents.

-Why haven't you had kids yet? Don't you want any? If you only knew how much these hearts desired to have their quiver full! Be sensitive.

-And for the real doozy: Is something wrong with you? Is something wrong with him? Another friend had someone at a party ask her this. The funny, well maybe not so funny thing is, is that most people that ask these questions are people that are either strangers or just acquaintances that seem to feel they have the right to dig into your very personal life, your heart. I do know that most people are just curious and are not trying to be malicious, but it is something that we should all take a minute to think about. Should I really ask this question or is it worth the possible strife I might cause this person. Better yet, just think before you speak. Most of what we want to say is TOTALLY unneeded.

Again, this was only meant for the YOU's that would actually cross this line. I know that most of the people that read my blog would never ask questions like this...on the other hand, you are the ones having to deal with the questions being asked of you.