Random Review: Other Moms Comments To A Very Pregnant Woman

I haven't done a random review in so long, and thought this was the perfect occasion. This friend of mine, is very pregnant, only has 10 days left until her due date and she shall remain nameless so she can truly speak her mind. I must say I know her better than I know anyone else and she is so far from perfect, but her heart is in the right place. Please, understand that these are her words, not mine, and that she just needed an outlet. I told her that all you wonderful blog readers would be sympathetic and understanding. Now to get to my..err...her review...

I am now in the very end stages of my 7th pregnancy. This will be our 6th child here on earth as one is already with the Lord. I remember being so sensitive and taking everything to heart with my first pregnancy, and even with my second. Feeling like others must know better than I. However, as I have gotten older, and dare I say-wiser, my skin has become tougher and I have realized that only Jesus' view of me matters. So, with each subsequent pregnancy, most of the comments slide right off my back and I don't really think twice about them. However, recently I started to think, "Hey, most of the comments are coming from other moms! They should totally know better! I mean I get that some old guy at the grocery store might not know better, and a 6 year old might not know better, even a grandma might have forgotten to know better, but another mom...she should definitely know better!" So, I thought I would take a moment to post about it on my blog...err...Veronica's blog. So, here are some of the things that you, especially if you are a mom, should NOT be saying to another mom when she is pregnant. I mean, really think about it, do you enjoy hearing these things about yourself while pregnant? Are they encouraging words? Are they words that build up your fellow mommy or words that could tear her down? I think we all have disease of the foot in mouth sometimes, so we must all work at watching what we say, so I hope this is a good reminder:



1. YOU ARE HUGE! (I think this is the one that really gets to me now. It didn't really bother me until I reached 38 weeks and I so realize I am huge, but I don't need YOU pointing it out. Honestly, when is your saying 'huge' to any woman, during any time of her life going to be appropriate?!?!? Try never.)

2. OMG, YOU'RE STILL PREGNANT? (Umm, duh, aren't you the one that said I was huge?? So, you must totally be able to figure out that I am still very pregnant. How about a well intended, "How are you feeling these last few days? Is there anything I can do for you? Like, birth your baby? It would be my pleasure!")

3. I HAVE NEVER BEEN THAT BIG WITH MY PREGNANCIES. (Well, woohoo for you. Did I ask?)

4. YOU'RE DONE HAVING KIDS NOW, RIGHT? (Look, I..err...Veronica did a post on this before. This is NEVER an appropriate question, ok? It is so not any of your business. That is between me, my husband, and God. And, if you must know, I will be done when God says I am done.)

5. ISABELLA? I HAVE 2 COUSINS, 1 DAUGHTER, 6 NIECES, AND A PET TURTLE NAMED THAT! (Look, I am not an idiot. I realize that it is the 2nd most popular name in the country...and has been for a couple of years. However, I have had that name etched on my heart for almost 20 years..since I was 18 years old. And, when Tim and I started dating and getting serious and talking about baby names, I mentioned this to him. He LOVED it. It has now been on his heart for almost 10 years...how were we to know how big it would get and how God's timing would make it so that we would have our Isabella during the big Isabella boom? ..Ok, Ok, so maybe, I have a husband named Tim, too.)

Look, I am not trying to sound bitter, but moms, like I have said before, YOU should know better...so, just think of ways to encourage that mom, instead of blurting out the first thing that pops in your head.

Now, make sure you watch your mouth come postpartum. I don't know if I will be able to keep my cool then....